Westchester Happening has had an ongoing love affair with Mrs. Why-Knot, our favorite expert in wedding planning, and all things bridal. Since this local Miss recently became a Mrs., we thought we would ask her a few questions about her own romance, and get her thoughts on love.
Our “Mrs.” is Jenn Puja…a local Westchester resident, who happily got married to her Mr., Joseph Puja.
We thought it would be fun to do this story in an interview format, so here goes!!
WH: In years past, couples had only a few ways of communicating with each other. In this day and age of technology, the danger might be present to be “together” and in contact too much. How did you, and how do you now, maintain enough closeness to be a couple, and yet enough independence to “not get on each other’s nerves”? In other words, how do you maintain individuality, and is that important in your relationship?
JENN PUJA: Maintaining individuality is something I would strongly encourage for all couples. Joe and I both look forward to spending time together because we include time apart. We both spend time with our friends throughout the week and value our friendships with them. For as long as I could remember, I was never one to drop friends and overdose in a relationship. To keep your marriage strong I think that time apart is so beneficial –especially because during that time you have a chance to ‘miss’ your soul mate no matter how long you have actually been married/dating.
WH: Planning a wedding for some couples is the most tumultuous time in a relationship – did you experience this at all, or was it a harmonious time for you, with relatively low stress. – and if it was stressful, how did you separate from the “planning time” and the “romantic time”?
JENN PUJA: I have said this a few times on my own blog (mrswhyknot.com) and also here on Westchester Happening. I surprised myself with how calm I was throughout the entire process-even on my wedding day. Joe and I had a year and a half engagement so there was plenty of time to plan. We didn’t feel stressed because of time constraints or feel that we were settling just to get things done. On the other hand, so many couples can get engaged and plan a wedding in just weeks if necessary. I think it depends on the particular couple and how stressful it can become. I was grateful it was OUR wedding and Joe had just as much input as I did (ok- maybe not as much but close!!) 😉
WH: What is it about each other that inspires each of you on a daily basis? Do you think you know all of each other’s good traits, or do you discover new ones every day?
JENN PUJA: The beginning of this month will mark that we have been together for four years. In that little time we have accomplished so much to keep us inspired. We bought our first home, got engaged, got married and are enjoying every bit of our lives together. We still have so much to look forward to which is inspiring to us both. You truly value your other half and all of their traits each day when you realize you are spending your life with the one person you wonder how you ever did without. Yes for some that sounds cheesy- but for us it’s absolutely true.
WH: What is the ideal romantic getaway for you both? Is it the same for both of you, or are one of you the “mountains” type, and one the “beach vacation” type?
JENN PUJA; Well for this- we may differ! My husband and I tried planning our honeymoon and for me it was a Mediterranean Cruise and for him it was Hawaii and relaxation. He didn’t want to be on a schedule and wanted time to just unwind. We finally agreed on Antigua and it was more than perfect. It was a romantic getaway and super relaxing but still loads of fun.
WH: You are so recently married – do you feel that much has changed about your relationship? Not really daily “motions”, but more the feelings and the love? And what do you believe it takes to make a marriage last, so that you will be spending your old age together?
JENN PUJA: Not much has changed- I think a huge part is that we lived together for almost three years already. When you move in with someone you have the chance to learn so much more about one another and it can change your relationship (not necessarily for the bad.) I think our biggest learning moments about each other was when we first moved in. Now that we are married it seems it’s just a title change! Our love continues to grow day by day which is just who we are. That is what makes a marriage last- when you still get goose bumps and butterflies.
WH: And finally, what is your advice to all couples, old and new, on how to keep the spark and the romance alive in your relationship?
JENN PUJA: To keep it alive- simply be yourselves- you fell in love with each other for a reason! Say I love you and mean it. Give compliments. Be spontaneous.. Respect each other. Cherish the memories you’re making. Be thoughtful – it goes a LONG way. Make TIME for one another- no matter how crazy your life or job gets. Be each others’ biggest fans!
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